Many of us believed that this thing will lead me to happiness, and that thing will surely grant me happiness if I own or have them in my life right now; and you know what, somehow you are WRONG!!!
( I think i'm overdoing this... haha... )
Well, it's just that yesterday I've read an article about Myth that we've heard or think about happiness, and it surely does change my PERCEPTION about what makes me happy in life. So, lets go through the list;
1- THE RIGHT MARRIAGE
Most of us think that the right marriage will provide us with ETERNAL HAPPINESS, but actually it only picks up a sizable boost in the first 2 years!
Research shown that long lasting and intimate relationships was not born from partners that respond to each other's disappointments, but how they respond to GOOD NEWS!!!
So, if your partner shares a good news with you, make sure to react with joy and ask enthusiastic questions signals that you care!
2- YOUR DREAM JOB
Most think that if you got your dream job, you will be happy working, forever! WRONG!!!
Research found that you will experience
BURST OF HAPPINESS right after a new job, but within a year or so, you will be back to normal again.
We all adapt to new experiences, and thus, an joy from new work environment will likely fade with time.
So, the researchers suggest that you try to "RE-EXPERIENCING" what it was you didn't like about your previous work, as mentally transporting yourself to where you didn't want to be will help you in this situation...
3- BIGGER SALARY
There's a lot of people thinks that they didn't work well because they wasn't paid enough. Well it might be true for some, but not for all who actually get paid well; and it might be just you.
A study found that people prefer to live in a world where they make $50,000 while others earning $25,000; rather than in one where theirs is $100,000 but others make $200,000.
To overcome this, try to "BUY HAPPINESS" instead, and use that money to buy another limited resource: TIME.
Pay people to do time-consuming job, so you have more time to spend on experiences; as I heard that people who spend money on experiences rather than materials will definitely be happier.
4- BIGGER HOUSE
If you think that big house will bring you happiness, well it does, but with an extra package! WORRYING!!!
If bigger square foot means you have to take out a barely affordable mortgage, you won't be as happy as you think.
Research shown that eliminating NEGATIVE EXPERIENCES makes you 3-5 times happier than creating a POSITIVE EXPERIENCES!
Research also shown that, once again, experience - not things - that make us happy. Try to find happiness in everything or anything that you are doing!
5- REACHED A BIG GOAL
Many studies have shown that those who are STRIVING toward a goal are happier that when they actually accomplish it! Pursuing goals gives us pleasure by creating structure, deadlines, and opportunities to learn new skills.
So, try, instead of just focusing too much on the finish line, try to savor every "SUBGOAL" to reach your GOAL, while enjoying it as much as possible of course!
And the list goes on...
I'm too tired to write, and the above is what actually interest me anyway... haha...
-AFDHAL-
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